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Sunday, October 30, 2011

2011 BYU FSOS Reunion: President's Advisory Board Meeting, Leadership Meeting, Reception and Dinner



2011 BYU FSOS Reunion Notes
 

 
Leadership Training-This meeting was attended by about 10 people.
A problem occurred with the room assignment for this meeting as well.  
 This room was not shown on the Wilkinson Center map and people had 
to guess as to the location.  Next year the room needs to be larger to 
accommodate more people.
 
Item #1:  We proposed and then voted on the following business items:
     Proposal 1:  Those who come to the leadership training meeting
(Spouses included) will be considered a quorum, capable of voting and 
representing the whole organization.
a)     Proposal was seconded.
b)    Proposal was passed unanimously.
 
     Proposal 2:  Richard and Cynthia Connell, given the office of Presidents 
and Co-chairs of the Brigham Young University Former Student Officers Society 
by Bill Brady, former president of the same organization be officially accepted 
as the new presidents.
a)     Proposal was seconded.
b)    Proposal was passed unanimously. 
 
     Proposal 3:   The length of the time for a presidency’s term of office will 
be left undefined for now and the selection of the next president/presidency 
shall be left to the discretion of the current presidency.
a)     Discussion of this proposal had to do with clarification of its intent.  
 The intent of this proposal is that both the duration of president’s term 
of office and the process for the selection of the president should be 
addressed at a future leadership meeting after the filling of positions of 
additional officers.   For now, this will officially give the presidents the 
ability to (if necessary) to quickly pass the leadership of the organization 
into the hands of someone they feel will "raise the torch" of the BYU FSOS 
and help it burn brightly.
b)    Proposal was seconded.
c)     Proposal was passed unanimously.
 
Item #2:  First leadership Challenge 
a)     A short discussion was held about doing an ancestral leadership chart.
                               I.      Each member is to ask themselves, "How were my ancestors
leaders?"
                            II.      Then ask themselves, "What characteristics did they possess?"
                         III.      The third question they need to ask themselves is, "What does
this mean to me?"
 
The purpose for the challenge is to invite members to think upon their heritage 
of leadership as it might apply to their unique needs as leaders today.
 
Item #3:  The Second Leadership Challenge 
Obtain a copy of the Principles of Leadership, Teacher Manual, Religion 180R
CES manual (available on-line).
Obtain a copy of the LDS Family Services Addiction Recovery Program manual 
(available online).
Become familiar with both of these manuals so we can both teach them and 
bring ourselves more into alignment with both the leadership methods and 
personal characteristics required by the Lord.  We must lead ourselves first.
 
Members are invited to email the experiences they feel comfortable sharing 
with the group so we can post them.  We will be interested in reading about 
any insights or experiences with the Genealogy Challenge and with the 
Leadership Challenge that you found helpful.
 
Item #4:  Anne Snow shared with us that the Harold B. Lee Library has many 
of the past records of the former BYUSA/ASBYU presidencies. They are 
available to be seen, copied and read through.  She showed us some examples 
she had just copied and also her scrap book that had many newspaper clippings 
of her days at BYU during WWII.
 
Item #5:  Cynthia told about Nephi’s leadership challenges that can be read 
in 2 Nephi, chapters 2-5.
 
Item #6:  We watched part of BYU’s production, Voices of Leadership   
 (copies were available to take home).
 
Item #7:  We were asked if the FSOS would ask for dues and donations from 
their members.  A valid observation was made that former alumni were being 
asked by multiple BYU organizations to donate money.  They were concerned 
that the FSOS would do the same. 
We answered that we were considering giving members the option of helping 
to pay for the dinners of those who cannot pay for themselves.  We answered 
that we would keep their concerns in mind as we planned for the future.
 
The Reception
The reception went well but attendance was light because of a traffic jam on 
the highway.  Debbie Forrest and her brother Mike Hutchings greeted people 
as they came in, handed out name tags and asked people if they would like to 
volunteer for committees.   3 additional students were asked to assist in setting 
things up and taking photos.  Because of these five volunteers, things ran smoothly 
during the reception.  
A crane had tipped over across and through part of the building next to the
 'Food to Go" area and they were trying to get all the food orders out so they '
could evacuate the building, but it didn't effect us.
Anne Snow had brought in some BYU memorabilia and we set them on a
table in the reception room.
 
The Dinner
We started the dinner late because people were still arriving. 
John Murphy spoke about the benefits of donating people’s papers to 
The BYU Archives.
Cynthia talked about the leadership challenges (the handouts having been 
put out at each person’s place setting -- this was a good idea and should be 
repeated for next year’s leadership challenges).
 
The Fireside
Heber Kapp spoke about Christ serving the individual when He came to the
Americas.  Of having people feel the print of the nails in his hands and
feet one by one, blessing their children, their sick, the twelve (twice)
all these groups-one by one.   He said that many leaders just want to
give out directions and have their people take care of the individuals.  Not really 
dealing with the individual personally.
 
Ardeth Kapp spoke about the importance of using our time well since we
pay for each moment literally with our lives.  She told several
leadership-of-self lessons she had learned.  
Each of us have a constant companion that is always with us and whose influence 
will either guide us to greatness or ruin.  
 
Both talks were excellent and are well worth our special attention.  The dinner 
ended on time and everyone seemed to be pleased with how things turned out.

"Leadership of Self" (PART III) by Ardeth G. Kapp given on Oct 7, 2011, Provo, UT.

VI. AND HOW IS THIS TO BE?
My father in the last stages of stomach cancer, when his spirit had outgrown his body, stood the last fast and testimony meeting before his “graduation” as he called it and recited: 
 MOSIAH 3:19  “For the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father.”
 IT BEGINS WITH A BROKEN HEART AND A CONTRITE SPIRIT WILLING TO SUBMIT OUR WILL To His  AND TAP INTO THE SOURCE OF DIVINE LEADERSHIP.  We have access to the gift and power of the Holy Ghost, Personal revelation.  The Lord explains, “…I will tell you in your mind and in your heart, by the Holy Ghost, which shall come upon you and which shall dwell in your heart.” (D&C 8:2)  
IN FEBRUARY OF 1847, THE PROPHET JOSEPH SMITH APPEARED TO BRIGHAM YOUNG IN A DREAM OR VISION.  PRESIDENT YOUNG ASKED THE PROPHET IF HE HAD A MESSAGE FOR THE BRETHREN.  THE PROPHET JOSEPH REPLIED, “Tell the people to be humble and faithful, and be sure to keep the spirit of the Lord and it will lead them right. Be careful and not turn away the small still voice, it will teach you what to do and where to go; it will yield the fruits of the kingdom.”  (Manuscript History of Brigham Young, 23 Feb. 1847, 2 vols., ed. Elden Jay Watson, Salt Lake City: Elden J. Watson, 1968, 1971, 2:529.)

Of all the truth he might have taught Brigham Young on that occasion, he emphasized the importance of keeping the Spirit of the Lord.  CAN WE ASK FOR MORE?
We have a handbook.
D&C 88 [“The Olive Leaf-The Lord’s Message of peace to us.”]
I will go before your face…’ (D&C 84:88)
Alma  37:37  [“Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings and he will direct thee for good. . .”]
# 1  Keep an eternal perspective.  This life is short.
I came to realize this one day in Arizona.  [Sister Kapp told a story at this point.  She said that her Niece was away from home while having a baby, and Sister Kapp was babysitting her Great Nephew.  She and the boy were painting rocks together when the boy asked her:]
“HOW MANY BIRTHDAYS DO YOU HAVE Left?”
 [Sister Kapp was surprised by the question but decided to answer that when the boys mother comes home with the new baby, she herself would leave and return to her own home in Utah and that even though she was away, the grand nephew would still know that she loved him, even though they were not together at that time.  She likened this to death, we go to separate homes for a while, but you still know that you are loved and cared about by those who you can’t be with at the time, but you know that when you can, you will all be able to feel each others love.  The boy was very satisfied with Sister Kapp’s explaination and returned to his rock painting project.]
Helaman 5:12  “…it is on the rock of our redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation…”
Testimony   
 CAN WE ASK FOR MORE?
The scriptures give us an eternal perspective
Crossing the Ditch
Now I would like to share the most significant lesson on leadership of self that I learned from my father on the farm that continues to inspire, lead, guide and direct me every day. 
 It was in the springtime of the year at the end of the day.  A time to evaluate the activities of our day.  Did what we want to have happen, happen?
On [one particular] morning, my Dad and I stood side by side at the edge of our main irrigation ditch.  I’m going to teach you how to vault across this ditch” he explained.  As I stood watching the water that seemed to get deeper and deeper and the ditch wider and wider. Sensing my obvious concern, Dad offered a suggestion, Ardie,he said, Don’t look at the water in the ditch.  Look beyond the ditch.  You keep your eye on the bank on the other side.  It’s keeping your eye on the target that makes the difference. He took the shovel that he was carrying on his shoulder, placed it in the middle of the ditch and, holding on for stability, stepped across like I had seen him do many times. Then it was my turn. He helped me get a firm hold on the handle of the shovel.  As I waited and waited at the side of the ditch, Dad said these words that resound in my heart and mind today.  “Don’t wait.  Keep your eyes on that clump of flowers on the other side of the ditch.  Give it all you’ve got and you’ll make it.”  Taking a deep breath, I tightened my grip, gave it all I had and swung forward.  I made it.  I landed right on top of the clump of flowers.  I looked back and with hands clasped over his head, Dad shouted, “I knew you could do it.” At the end of the day, as we got in the truck and were headed for home, it was time for evaluation. What did you learn today he asked in a very casual tone.  “I learned to jump the ditch,I responded proudly.  What he had planned to have happen, happened. And the lesson continued in a tone of testimony.  “My dear, there will be a lot of irrigation ditches in life that you will have to cross,  some deep and some wide but if you keep your eye on the other side and give it all you’ve got, you will make it.
That lesson rings true today.  Not the shovel but the iron rod.  Not the other side of the ditch but the other side of the veil, and hearing in my mind my Father and your Father whose children we are, telling us “I knew you could make it.”  “. . .Well done, thou good and faithful servant: Thou hast been faithful over a few things. . .(Matthew 25:21)  and are ready now to take on even greater leadership responsibilities.
May God bless each of us in our leadership responsibilities and opportunities, I pray...